Anyway.
They say relationships go two ways, and when one side stops responding or stops giving, you should let it go. Anyone who doesn't make time for you isn't worth holding a spot in your heart for, right? I can't stop running this through my head. I have a really hard time letting go of people and just dropping the relationship, even though it hurts me to try to keep the contact alive because it's such a one-way street.
I've gone through a lot of close friends in my life. And it's me. I'm harsh and I tell the truth too much and I forget to sugar coat things. Or I choose not to; whatever. I don't have this group of friends I've had since I was little, and sometimes it makes me sad. So I think it makes me hold onto the friendships I have now too hard, to the point where it hurts my feelings to be the only one showing any interest but still refusing to let it die. Person calls once in a blue moon and I make time for them, catering to their schedule just so I can see them, only to not hear from them again for another month or two. Texting and calling and trying to make plans in the meantime, to be ignored.
How do you just let go? How can I stop myself from being the person who is constantly calling and trying to make plans, only to have said person (or persons) just ignore that relationship entirely? It's currently killing small pieces of my heart to hold on but I can't let go. Is it just me?
Here's a somewhat related song I cannot seem to stop listening to.
I definitely understand where you are coming from with your "friends". It is tiring to always be the one trying, getting hurt, and getting brushed aside. I have to say...it takes some time to find them, but I know that there are people out there that want to be your friend and will show you the love back. :)
ReplyDeleteI so know how you feel, story of my life. I have come to the fact that its just me. I still try now and then and always hate that I did after wards because then I feel worse. Its sad when you have to beg for someone to have a night out away from kids etc. and just have fun visiting, dinner or whatever else then no one shows up even after they said they would. Been there one too many times. Extremely close friends I had in school won't return my calls when I am in the area and would like to stop by and say hi for two seconds, no return e-mails, letters. nothing. Seems when they have a need they call and I, like you, drop everything to see them or help them only to be ignored or worse later on. Yet I still do it. My husband is my only true friend who is always there for me and I am okay with that, but it would be nice to have a girls night out now and again to just have fun and do what we do. I always look at people who have been friends with someone for years and years and wish I had that relationship still with my friends or even to make new ones with people who are honest and real. Maybe someday we will find those kind of friends :)
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