Mother's Day is somewhat of a painful subject for me. I am not trying to take it away from RealMom and I'm not trying to say I have a right to anything that day, because I don't. But that's why it sucks so bad. Everyone out there celebrates Mother's Day. And as a second Mom, I sit on the sidelines and watch everyone else get their cards and their flowers and their sweet sentiments and I die a little inside. Aside from my own family, no one tells me happy mother's day. No one gives me cards or flowers, and I don't even get to spend time with my child because RealMom owns the rights to the day. I don't get the cute things that Punk makes in class for her mom. I don't get to have that special day.
I try to keep everything bottled inside because I don't want Punk to think she is doing anything wrong or that I'm mad at RealMom for anything, because I'm not. It just hurts.
This is the first year Punk is old enough to understand really what's going on with Mother's Day. She asked what day it was on, and when I told her, she said "so I finally get to spend Mother's Day with you?" I explained that her Mom will probably be here to get her early because that's her day, and her response surprised me a little.
"That's not really fair."
Wow. I don't think I'd put it that way, but there it was. My feelings exactly. I talked to her about why she always goes with her Mom and told her I appreciated her feelings but that it was the right thing to be with RealMom for that day. We talked about how they should make a Step-Mother's day and a Step-Father's day so that it could be fair for everyone. It's amazing how mature she's gotten just this year.
So, if you could all do me one little favor - if there is a stepmother in your life, whether it's your own or a friend or whatever, make sure to tell her Happy Mother's Day on Sunday. Although it may not show, it means a lot to hear it.