I've discussed my issues with 'real mom' and the way she dresses before, yes? And also explained my concerns when it comes to Punk deciding what is appropriate or not appropriate to wear. Okay...
Friday, I go to pick Punk up from school and she talks my ear off as soon as she gets in, as usual. We stop at the gas station to get a treat and while we are there, she tells me, "Look Mommy" and raises her arms, exposing her stomach clear freaking past any point I view as acceptable, "I told my mom when she got my clothes out for school that this shirt was too small and I shouldn't wear it, and she told me it was fine. She told me that it was long enough. But it's not long enough!"
GAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! First off, I am SOOOO happy that Punk told her mom that. It means that we are getting through to her and she realizes that some things are not okay [and also that she is starting to speak her mind to 'real mom', which is great!]. BUT - I am SO pissed. Beyond belief, steam coming out of my ears, pissed. When your 8-year-old daughter tells you that she should not be wearing something, don't you think you should go ahead and listen? When is it EVER acceptable to make her wear something to school that she is not comfortable in?!? So, not only are you being a not-so-great example to her, but now you are forcing her to wear something she clearly feels is not okay to wear? Even when her arms were down, her shirt was barely resting on the top of her pant line, so the slightest movement totally exposed her stomach. Not to mention how bad it would show when she raises her hand in class, or is playing at recess! GGGGGGGRRRRgggggggggrrrr freaking grr.
Can you tell I'm mad right now? Well, yes. I am mad. Mad, mad, mad, mad, MAD! Augh! I know we are paying her enough every single month in child support to be able to afford an entire new wardrobe every month, and Punk is really small for her size [like, she's still in 7 slim pants and 6x tops] so pretty much anything that fit last school year still fits this school year so there is no excuse for her to not have clothes that fit her properly.
Husband has decided that when this happens, we are going to keep the clothing we don't feel is appropriate and send her home in something that is. More expense on our part, because we never get the clothes back that we send her home in even though 'real mom' throws fits if her clothes don't go back to her house. [We have clothes for her here, and then her mom has clothes for her there. We don't share.] But we're just going to have to deal because I am sickened at the fact that even though Punk did not want to wear it because it showed her tummy, 'real mom' made her wear it.